jeff
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Post by jeff on Mar 18, 2014 20:17:47 GMT 1
My biggest fear is that someday I will have to re-live the ignorance of my youth.
Jeff
Emptiness is where stories go to die
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Post by Rudy on Mar 19, 2014 10:24:05 GMT 1
Hmm, the relative positive part is that you probably won't suffer much from it, as you don't realize it. Outside Buddhism, the saying is 'ignorance is bliss'.  My biggest fear is probably to go very slowly and painfully, like from cancer. I've seen several family members die that way, and it is pretty devastating for the patient and the surroundings as well...  |
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tamara
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Post by tamara on Mar 21, 2014 4:10:17 GMT 1
Interesting thread.
Rudy wrote:
``My biggest fear is probably to go very slowly and painfully, like from cancer. I've seen several family members die that way, and it is pretty devastating for the patient and the surroundings as well...``
I do not want to sound arrogant, but exactly this situation can be turned into something positive. I have seen this occasionally, although very rarely.
My biggest fear is that I will `go` before I have brought my son and my work on track so that both become independent and workable on its own. Will take another 5 years or so where I have to stay focused and hopefully physically strong.
Tamara
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Post by Mabe on Mar 29, 2014 5:17:11 GMT 1
Maybe mothers share that fear. My biggest fear is also that I will go before my youngest son has found his niche in this world and a sound spiritual direction. Same need for work on myself and health to complete these works.
Mabe
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Post by dan on Apr 21, 2014 3:16:14 GMT 1
My biggest fear is that I won't remember a damned thing about compassion when I get to hell.  |
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tamara
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Post by tamara on Apr 30, 2014 3:02:11 GMT 1
Dan wrote: ```My biggest fear is that I won't remember a damned thing about compassion when I get to hell.``` Actually this happens every few minutes to me....forgetting how things `really` are and therefore landing in hell again....  Tamara |
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Post by tamara on Apr 30, 2014 3:04:28 GMT 1
Mabe.., I`d say `parents share this fear`, hopefully not only mothers.
Had an extremely intense April regarding work and surprising acute illnesses in the family.
May should be quite normal again.
Tamara
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matt
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Post by matt on Apr 30, 2014 5:16:59 GMT 1
Mabe.., I`d say `parents share this fear`, hopefully not only mothers. Had an extremely intense April regarding work and surprising acute illnesses in the family. May should be quite normal again. Tamara Everyone on the mend, I hope? |
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tamara
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Post by tamara on Apr 30, 2014 23:10:13 GMT 1
Yes, Matt, everybody is fine now.
There was also some misdiagnosis involved and I found it rather shocking how `my mind` craved for legal action, how our instincts completely take over in times of crisis. One watches in awe and, at least for some time, one cannot stop the mind from running fully on autopilot.
Of course rational thinking took over after some time and things are smooth again, but the time when we are under full influence of what`s going on in the brain is hell indeed.
Tamara
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Post by Mabe on May 1, 2014 4:15:33 GMT 1
You are correct Tamara--I should have said parents. Because I am (or was) a single parent, I think I became quite one sided. Something to fix, really.
Amazing similitudes. I also went through some health issues and was misdiagnosed. Now I am (hopefully) with the correct treatment and also learning to manage this new aspect of my life. Meditation and relaxation help a lot to focus and be in the moment.
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matt
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Post by matt on May 2, 2014 19:27:06 GMT 1
Yeah, what goes on in the brain is often terrible suffering. I am glad things are going better for your family, Tamara and for Mabe's
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tamara
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Post by tamara on May 3, 2014 2:05:01 GMT 1
Yep,... in my case it was not me who was misdiagnosed but a close family member.
Anyway, what I want to say in this thread is:
It is a big difference if we deal with something calmly or out of pain, revenge, out of `our ego`, so to speak.
Will investigate the pros and cons of legal action next week with my lawyer and this time in a composed way.
Such things are really good practices for our minds.
Mabe, I wish you the best. Having not been diagnosed with anything bad does not mean that I do not suffer though. The fact that at the age of 54 I am much slower at many things than I was let`s say 5 years ago, is difficult to deal with. Time to slow down a bit.
Tamara
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Post by Mabe on May 3, 2014 3:00:02 GMT 1
Thank you Tamara. Thank you Matt. Tamara, we all change in subtle and not so subtle ways. You will find, though, that change is good and that each stage, like the seasons, has its own challenges, and beauty, and advantages. Enjoy your fifty's--it's a wonderful age.
Best.
Mabe
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